The NaughtyNights Kink Glossary - Every Term, No Fluff

A plain-language reference for terms you've seen, heard, or been too embarrassed to Google properly.

Between Reddit, dating apps, and conversations that happen after midnight, there are a lot of sexual terms floating around that people use without explanation. Some of them are self-explanatory once you know. Some of them really aren't.

This is a reference. Bookmark it. Use it when a term comes up that you'd rather understand properly than guess at. Every definition here is honest, short, and free of the kind of unnecessary editorializing that makes these things awkward to read.

A — D

Anal Play 

Any sexual activity involving the anus, fingering, rimming, anal sex, butt plugs, anal beads, or prostate massage. The anus has a high concentration of nerve endings, which is why it's sexually sensitive for many people regardless of gender. Always use lubricant and go slowly. From NaughtyNights: Anal beads, butt plugs, prostate massagers, anal training kits.

BDSM 

An umbrella term covering bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism. Not a single act but a framework of power-exchange dynamics and sensation play that different people practice in very different ways. The common thread is consent. Everything in BDSM happens because all parties agreed to it, including agreed limits and safewords. From NaughtyNights: Restraints, blindfolds, paddles, floggers, bondage kits.

Bondage 

Restraining a partner using rope, handcuffs, ties, or bondage tape as part of sexual play. The restraint creates a psychological dynamic of helplessness and control that many people find intensely arousing. Soft restraints and Velcro cuffs are the safest starting point. You can release quickly if needed, which matters more than it sounds. From NaughtyNights: Handcuffs, Velcro restraint kits, bondage rope, under-bed restraint systems.

Cuckolding 

A dynamic where one partner, usually a man, derives arousal from watching or knowing their partner has sex with someone else. Consensual and negotiated. The psychological appeal involves a particular mix of jealousy, submission, and desire, all activated at the same time.

Cunnilingus 

Oral sex performed on the vulva and vagina, kissing, licking, and stimulating the clitoris and surrounding area with the mouth and tongue. One of the most effective ways to produce female orgasm. Technique, patience, and communication matter more than any particular move.

D — G

Deep Throat 

Performing oral sex on a penis by taking it deeply into the throat, suppressing the gag reflex. Requires relaxation of the throat muscles and takes practice. It's not a requirement of oral sex and should never be pressured.

Dirty Talk 

Vocalising explicit thoughts, commands, or descriptions during sex to heighten arousal. Works because sex is partly psychological. What we hear activates arousal in ways that physical sensation alone doesn't always reach. Starts with description and builds from there.

Dogging 

Having sex in a semi-public place, often a parked car, with the knowledge that strangers may watch or join. A specific form of exhibitionism and voyeurism combined.

Domination and Submission (D/s) 

A consensual power-exchange dynamic where one partner, the Dominant, directs and the other, the Submissive, follows. Can be confined to sex or extend into a broader relationship structure. The Dominant has authority. The submissive has the safeword. In practice, the person with the safeword holds the real power.

Double Penetration (DP) 

Simultaneous penetration of two orifices, most commonly vaginal and anal, at the same time. Achieved with two partners, or a partner and a toy. A good quality anal vibrator or butt plug can replicate the sensation in a partnered context without requiring a second person. From NaughtyNights: Butt plugs, vibrating anal toys, couple's DP kits.

E — G

Edging 

Bringing yourself or a partner to the verge of orgasm and stopping, deliberately and repeatedly, before allowing climax. The eventual orgasm is significantly more intense. Also one of the most practical stamina tools for men managing premature ejaculation. From NaughtyNights: Multi-speed vibrators with intensity control, wand massagers.

Exhibitionism 

Sexual arousal from being watched, during sex, undressing, or displaying the body to a consenting audience. One of the most commonly documented kinks across cultures. The counterpart to voyeurism.

Face-sitting 

One partner sits or squats over the other's face for oral sex. The person on top controls depth, angle, and pressure. Often combined with a 69 position or used independently.

Fellatio 

Oral sex performed on a penis, licking, sucking, and stimulating the shaft and glans with the mouth and tongue. Technique varies widely by person. Asking what feels good works better than assumptions every single time.

Fingering 

Manual stimulation of the vagina or anus using one or more fingers. Can target the G-spot via the anterior vaginal wall, or the prostate via the rectum. Good for foreplay, solo play, and as part of partnered sex.

Fisting 

Gradual insertion of the entire hand into the vagina or anus. Requires extensive warm-up, significant lubrication, and patience. Not as extreme as it sounds once you understand that gradual is the operative word, but it is advanced. Start with fingers and work up over multiple sessions.

Foot Fetish 

Sexual fixation on feet, arousal from touching, kissing, licking, or viewing a partner's feet or footwear. One of the most commonly documented fetishes. The reason feet are so often fetishised has to do with how sensory maps in the brain organise themselves. The foot area sits directly next to the genital area in the somatosensory cortex. Your brain is wired weird. So is everyone else's.

Gang Bang 

A sexual scenario where multiple people engage sexually with one central person, either sequentially or simultaneously. Always requires clear, sober, ongoing consent from the central person.

Golden Shower / Watersports 

Urinating on a partner, or being urinated on, for sexual gratification. The appeal is most often about taboo and power dynamics rather than the physical act itself. Safe when confined to skin. Avoid mucous membranes.

H — P

Hand Job 

Manual stimulation of a penis by a partner's hand. One of the most common sexual acts there is. Grip, speed, rhythm, and what you do with the other hand make a much larger difference than most people expect.

Humiliation Play 

Consensual use of verbal degradation, name-calling, or embarrassing scenarios to arouse the receiving partner. The word "consensual" is load-bearing here. Humiliation play requires explicit agreement about what language is and isn't on the table. What feels arousing to one person may feel genuinely hurtful to another. Discuss in detail before trying.

Impact Play 

Consensual striking of a partner's body, with hands, paddles, floggers, or crops, for arousal. Spanking is the entry point. The appeal is a mix of physical sensation and psychological power dynamic. From NaughtyNights: Paddles, floggers, restraint and impact play kits.

MFM 

Male, Female, Male. A threesome involving two men and one woman, with the woman as the central focus. The two men typically don't interact with each other.

FFM 

Female, Female, Male. A threesome involving two women and one man. The most commonly fantasised male scenario.

Masturbation 

Self-stimulation of the genitals for sexual pleasure. The most universal sexual act there is. Using a toy during masturbation, a masturbator for men or a vibrator for women, significantly expands the range of sensation available. From NaughtyNights: Masturbators, pocket pussy, vibrators, wand massagers, G-spot toys.

Mutual Masturbation 

Partners stimulating themselves in front of each other, or stimulating each other's genitals by hand simultaneously. More intimate than it sounds. It involves showing a partner exactly what you like, which is one of the more vulnerable things you can do with another person.

Orgasm Control 

One partner deciding when, or whether, the other is permitted to orgasm. A dominance and submission dynamic that works at many levels of intensity, from a simple "not yet" to extended multi-day orgasm denial.

Pegging 

A woman penetrating a man anally using a strap-on dildo. Stimulates the male prostate and reverses the typical penetrative role. More common than most people publicly admit. From NaughtyNights: Strap-on harness kits, beginner pegging sets, anal lubricants.

Pet Play 

A role-play dynamic where one partner adopts an animal persona, kitten, puppy, pony, and the other acts as owner or handler. Falls under the broader BDSM umbrella. The appeal is often about freedom from adult expectations. The pet relinquishes responsibility. The owner takes it.

Prostate Massage 

Internal stimulation of the male prostate via the rectum, producing intense orgasms. Also called milking. The prostate responds to pressure and vibration. Worth knowing about if you haven't explored it yet. From NaughtyNights: Prostate massagers, beginner anal sets with curved toys.

R — Z

Rimming / Analingus 

Oral stimulation of the anus, licking, kissing, and tonguing the anal opening and surrounding area. The area is rich in nerve endings and genuinely sensitive to oral stimulation for many people regardless of gender. Hygiene matters.

Role Play 

Adopting fictional characters or scenarios during sex. The value is psychological permission. Playing a character lets you say and do things that might feel too vulnerable as yourself. From NaughtyNights: Costume accessories, blindfolds, role play prop kits.

Rough Sex 

Consensual sex with higher physical intensity, harder movement, hair-pulling, biting, holding down, light choking, slapping, within agreed limits. The consent and agreed limits are what make it different from assault. Discuss beforehand what's on the table and what isn't. That conversation is not optional.

Scissoring / Tribbing

Two people grinding their genitals together, by interlocking legs in a scissor position or one partner on top of the other, for clitoral stimulation. Common between two women. No penetration involved.

Sensation Play 

Using varied physical sensations, ice, warm wax, feathers, silk, pinwheels, to heighten erotic awareness. Often combined with blindfolding to amplify the effect. One of the most accessible kinks to start exploring. From NaughtyNights: Sensation play kits, massage candles, feather ticklers, silk blindfolds.

Snowballing 

Transferring semen from one partner's mouth to another's through kissing after oral sex. A personal preference. Negotiated between partners, never assumed.

Spanking 

Striking a partner's buttocks with an open hand for erotic pleasure. The most accessible form of impact play. The buttocks are a dense nerve area and respond to impact with a rush of sensation. From NaughtyNights: Spanking paddles, impact play starter kits.

SRSP — Same Room, Same Partner 

Two couples in the same room, each having sex with their own partner. Voyeurism and exhibitionism simultaneously, without partner-swapping. A common entry point for couples curious about the swinging lifestyle.

SRDP — Same Room, Different Partner 

Two couples in the same room having sex with each other's partners. What most people mean when they say swinging. Requires the most negotiation and the most relationship security of any dynamic in this guide.

Squirting 

Expulsion of fluid from the urethra during female sexual arousal or orgasm, associated with G-spot stimulation. Real, happens for some women, not a performance standard either way. From NaughtyNights: Curved G-spot vibrators, waterproof vibrators.

Strap-on Sex 

Penetrative sex using a dildo attached to a harness worn by the penetrating partner. Used by any gender combination. Includes pegging and lesbian sex using a strap-on. From NaughtyNights: Strap-on harness kits, realistic dildos, strapless strap-ons.

Swallowing 

Ingesting semen after oral sex. A personal preference, never something to assume or pressure. Completely safe in the context of a known partner.

Swinging 

Consensual partner-swapping between couples as a form of ethical non-monogamy. Can happen in the same room or separately. Negotiated fully in advance. The negotiation is what makes it swinging and not something else entirely.

Teabagging 

Lowering the scrotum into or around a partner's mouth for oral stimulation. Named for the motion of dipping a tea bag. One of those terms that sounds funnier than it is until it isn't.

Voyeurism 

Sexual arousal from watching others engage in sex or undress, consensually. One of the most common kinks across cultures. The counterpart to exhibitionism, and both are present in SRSP at the same time.

Wax Play 

Dripping warm candle wax onto a partner's skin for a mix of warmth, mild pain, and sensation. Use candles specifically designed for wax play, they melt at a lower temperature and won't burn. Test on your own inner wrist first. Keep the candle at least 30 cm above the skin. From NaughtyNights: Massage candles, sensation play candle sets.

Wet and Messy (WAM) 

Sexual arousal from being covered in or touching wet, slimy, or messy substances, food, mud, oil, during sexual play. A sensory fetish focused on texture and the transgression of cleanliness norms. Not for everyone. Very much for some people.

Every product mentioned in this glossary is available at naughtynights.in. Discreet packaging, neutral billing, delivered across India. If you have questions about any product before ordering, what size, what material, what's right for a beginner, WhatsApp the team at +91 9878416969. Real answers, no awkwardness.